My DA/ex(F32) and I(F30) had been together for 13 years.
She broke up with me August 2024 during one of the worst periods of my life. I really needed her support and instead she became distant and cold and then eventually broke off our engagement and said there’s no spark and she wasn’t “in love”. I cried and asked her what I needed to do to fix this and she said I needed therapy and to deal with my anxiety. So guess what. I did just that.
She ended up wanting to get back with me a month into therapy and my new meds and it was good for a bit then she started being shady. Hiding her phone, starting fights to sleep in second bedroom all while calling me crazy for noticing.
Eventually I find out she’s having an EA with an old high school friend.
I break up with her, panic and get back with her if she agrees to go to therapy and work on herself.
She never does and eventually became so overbearing, treating me like I was the one who cheated And I couldn’t do it. I left her April 2025.
We still live together because we can’t afford to live separately yet. I still love her but know I need to respect myself and deserve better and therapy has been helping tremendously. Within the last year I’ve made a FWB who is supporting me and the support is mutual. My ex started trying to better herself (no therapy but she bought a book on it that the bookmark hasn’t left its spot all year). I knew better than to fall for that and have been trying to live my life feeling split in two.
However it seems something has switched in her. We were at least both kind and mutually respectful but it seems the more I go out with my friend and live my life the nastier she’s getting. She’s throwing it in my face that I met someone new and have been doing my own thing and all while claiming she isn’t seeing anyone and is going on solo dates and vibing alone. Well I was just sent a pic of her walking around with another woman holding hands. So that was a lie. And I just seen she refollowed the woman she had an EA with despite me having her block her and remove her off everything.
I know I shouldn’t care anymore but I can’t help it. It feels so disorienting to see someone I loved with all my heart turn into this disrespect and hateful person.