u/Ecstatic_Pop_1663

Hi everyone, sorry for the long post need advice. I'm 16 and got diagnosed with tcm about 2 years ago. I am very insecure about it, hardly anyone apart from my family knows, not even my best friend. Its worse cause one time my mom accidently let it slip and the other people there straight up started laughing. One day around eight months ago at school, it got really bad ( my scalp started bleeding a little). I was in the middle of a class and panicked and decided to tell my friend who was sitting next to me ( ive known her for 8 years). After venting to her for 10 minutes or so, she looks at me and says " GIRL SAMEE", which struck me as odd but i didn't think much of it. A few days later when everyone in our friend group was there ( both of us and 2 other girs including my bsf), she looks at one of our friends and goes " I WANNA PULL OUT HAIR, LIKE RIP IT OUT" all while side-eyeing ME. This has happened countless times since then. After saying things like that she goes on to explain how she has ocd and ' its the urges'. She jokes about it a lot, which tbh is really triggering. My bsf has really long and pretty hair, and while leaving school one day she goes " ur hairs so pretty, I could neverr" while freakin staring at me !!! Ive known her almost a decade and have never seen her pull or show any symptoms, then again i myself tried my best to hide this side of myself from people for the longest time. Maybe after my rant she finally felt comfortable enough to talk about it ? Maybe joking about it is her coping mechanism ? It would be rather narcissistic of me to think she's ' mirroring' me or my actions. But the way she says all that is so performative. Her comments have honestly made me more insecure about it. Also, the rest of my friends get pretty annoyed when she keeps saying this, so it makes me think they'll make fun of me if i ever were to tell them. I feel horrible about doubting her and i dont know what to do.

1.Abortion isn't murder. It's wayy better to not bring a child into this world when you KNOW you can't give them a proper life than to be a 'Saint' and give birth to a child only to give them an unstable life. "Oh but that child could hv been the next big thing, could've found the cure for cancer" So could the children who were eaten alive in the Eipstein Island, all the children who decided to take their lives just cause the world was too cruel to them.

2.The same thing works for pets. The mindset of 'Getting a pet when you're broke just so that you have a companion' is SICK. You're taking responsibility of another life!! Just cause you were bored doesn't ount to you're pet having to go hungry and without proper care.

3. Having the mentality that having a government leas by a woman would be superior just because of their gender is not rational. Same goes for thinking a more male dominated govt.is gonna be horrible. At the end of the day, it all depends on the people you are giving power and authority to. If they have good intentions they will try to make the world a better place IRRESPECTIVE of their gender. The reason there been scarce women representation is cause of combined misogny thanks to the patriarchal mindset of our society.

4. You are not 'cool' for uttering a racial slur you know you're NOT allowed to say !! Grow up?!

5. There never is, and never will be a proper justification for rape. Let's say you despise bread. A random person comes up to you and wordlessly starts feeding you bread forcelly. They feed you so much, that you're stomach is full. But does that mean you enjoyed it? NO. Does that mean you wanted to eat the bread? ALSO NO.

6.People dismissing a male SA victim because of his gender is totally inhumane. It can go both ways.

7. The Trans Bill of 2026 is dogshit. People have to have a medical certificate to be themselves now? Why do they always have to prove their identity? And the fact that it was approved by people with developed frontal lobes? Its as if we are going backwards in terms of development. Development of a nation does not only include improving infrastructure and technology but how the government treats the people. ALL OF THEM.

That's it for now