Hey . I (31F) have a bf (36M) and we are in a long distance relationship. I will keep this short.
So we know each other for 3 years now and have never lived in the same city. Both have had our fair share of problems in life... But have been consistent. He is the most perfect man in my eyes. He always maintained and still does that I'm extremely important to him. He also always wanted to have a polyamorous lifestyle. I was not into it a lot. But
The problem started last year when he started having a FWB. I was okay till it was just a FWB kind of a thing. But it became all complicated as she had feelings and even though things were cleared to her in advance... The whole situation became quite sour. The FWB is a very manipulative person with her own huge sets of problems. Then bf broke up with that girl coz of multiple reasons.
After a few days he now has a different FWB and is kind of promising me that it's different from the last time. I don't know details about this relationship as I asked to be - 'don't ask don't tell 'here.
I would like to add here that I am confident and trusting of my bf here. I am deeply in love and i believe so is he. He has reiterated multiple times that I am the primary partner in our equation.
But having said that... I have been severely traumatised in the whole thing since last year. I really cannot figure out a solution to what's going on.
Meanwhile I have not pursued anything at all. I have been in my lane and trying to do good in my career.
I have tried my best to be open to everyone's needs here. I am confused about me forcing this relationship. I don't feel like I can trust anyone right now. I don't know how to make this better at this stage.
We cannot currently move to each other's city due to work commitments and the need of financial security which comes from that.
Can anyone give me any constructive advice here. I am already in therapy and doing my best. Please be kind. It's a huge deal to share this like this. I would appreciate womens pov more here.