u/Ecstatic-Way-814

I (F28) have been seeing this guy (M30) for about a month. I think he’s great, apart from the fact that he isn’t extremely attractive, which is fine, that’s the not the most important thing. However, I just found out yesterday that he has some intense health issues that led to many, many surgeries, and he ended up with a permanent ostomy bag. He shared his experience and let me know that it’s okay if I can’t handle it. I feel absolutely awful because my initial reaction was bad, on the inside. I know he can’t help it, and it’s just part of his life now, but I don’t know if I can get past it. I feel like my “lady boner” died right there. He seems really wonderful, all around, but now there’s that, plus all the other health issues, so it makes me so nervous about the future. Would I be the asshole for walking away?