So here is a little background. Sorry for the novel.
I am a 40 something/m who has been a childless stepfather of 2 wonderful stepkids for 14 years. Their mother, my S/O, checks all the boxes of a narcissist.
Recently she has (in my opinion) been microcheating.
1.Going to bars without telling me until I see the charges on the statements.
DM'ing her former coworker I despise. Knowing this and being cool with it. Amongst other guys on FB. Including an ex.
Making a playdate with a male coworker at dog park while I'm out of town. Not 100% sure whether or not those bar charges were or were not related to him.
She rarely asks how I am, how my day was. I usually have to initiate text conversations, which often get ignored for hours. I initiate 90% of intimacy or deep conversations.
Ok, now the meat of the question. Do I tonight and into tomorrow ignore all texts for the next...I dunno 12 hours and recreate a similar fake scenario she actually put me through while out of town?
Like for example...tell her (after 12 hours of radio silence like she did me) that I went to a bar near the hotel I often stay at for work. TelI her I met a couple of ladies. They bought me drinks and I bought them drinks.
Then after the radio silence I tell her that if she sees any charges on the shared account in the next few days thats why.
Also, as a bonus! One of these fictional ladies hasn't been to a dog park near the hotel. So, naturally I offered to show her around after work tomorrow.
Super curious your thoughts everybody.