u/EbonHyena

First Mother's Day After my (M40) Partner's (M44) Mom Passed

My partner (M44) and I (M40) have been together for four years. His mom passed last year and this will be the first Mother's Day since then. I know it's going to be super-difficult for him and he's already said as much, wanting to avoid making any plans for the day.

We've had a recipe his mom gave us on the fridge for a while with a little hand written note ("I thought you guys might like these"). The recipe isn't something either of us have made before and it's more of an app than anything (basically cut up bell pepper filled with marinara and mozzarella with pepperoni on top). I re-noticed it a few minutes ago and was thinking it could be nice to make it as a surprise tomorrow... But then thought it might just make things feel more sad than anything.

What do people think? Anything else I should make sure to do tomorrow other than try to be there for him and just let him take it easy?

UPDATE: Thanks for all the responses! I asked him if he wanted to do or make anything special for dinner tomorrow while we were on a walk and he responded with a pretty flat "no." I think I'll plan on coming back to make that recipe another day.

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u/EbonHyena — 5 days ago
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He didn’t exactly look like Till Lindemann, but when I got my first pet about 15 years ago it was the name I settled on.

Adieu, little buddy.

u/EbonHyena — 17 days ago