u/Easy-Requirement2532

I'm Bi but I don't date guys I date other women and NB people (neutral NB or feminine NB, so Neptunic) and I'm into styling hair/trying new hair hacks and I'm basically obsessed with this kind of stuff one may call me even a girly-ish girl ("ish" because I'm still into other stuff like soccer and etc..). And apparently I can't be that while being sapphic because it's "against girl-code" someone told me.

I also got shamed for liking hair videos that have no narration that's like "If YoU dO tHiS yOuR bEsT fRiEnDs BrOtHeR wIlL aAtUaLlY fAlL iN lOvE wItH yOu!". I don't have anything against straight people or having crushes on your best friends brother and whatever but it kind of gets too much. Especially since this happens on almost EVERY video I see which is an annoyance I wanna point out just for the sake of it.

But the main point is is that whenever I say "oh yeah I'm actually not into guys..." people (rl and online) go all shell-shocked like "Really? Never thought someone who gave me that ponytail hack would be...y'know..." and believe it or not- they treat me differently even if they are my own close friends who say "Oh I really don't care" but they do.

I lost one of my most important friends (it was a guy friend) because he found out I'm Bi (Neptunic), I don't know if he was disappointed or just told by family to stay away from gay people.

Thanks for listening.

(NOTE: All rude comments made to insult me will be ignored! Hope that won't happen).

This is a legitimate question, because there are a lot of characters in Greek myth- like Apollo, Aphrodite, Achilles, Eros, Helios, Demeter, Artemis (in interpretations), Leto, Dionysus (in some descriptions), Eos, Harmonia (in Euripides' Medea), The Graces (Charites) (Described by Pindar as "fair-haired), Menelaus, Meleager, Rhadamanthys, Peleus, some of the Amazons (like Queen Hippolyta and Penthesilea), and SOME Nereids (because some are depicted with dark hair but Amphitrite is said to be fair-haired).

So was blonde (or light coloured hair in general) just a beauty standard? If so why?

So I always thought I was bisexual, then realised I have no interest in men so kind of started thinking I was lesbian. But now I realise that not only do I feel attraction to other girls but I also wouldn't mind dating a NB person either...what am I?

I heard you can also be bi while liking one gender AND NB people, so am I just bisexual but in the "less-common" way?

Because every time I just go on Youtube (or social media) I always get this whole thing where it's like "MeN aRe SiMpLe CrEaTuReS", I get that maybe they're just trying to joke around a bit and whatever but I feel like it's kind of taken a bit too far. And it shows youtube videos of men having fun (or doing some crazy shit or whatever you see) when I kind of go "Wait...I do/I would do that too..." or "I act like that too..." And whenever I actually say it people just go "Oh that's pick-me vibes."

There's one side of the spectrum where people go "Oh men are simple creatures, they have fun while girls just sit around doing each others nails and gossiping." And then there's the other side where it's all "Women are the best! Women are the prettiest- you go girl! Slay! Men are all violent and emotionally incapable! (toxic feminism/misandry)".

I have a bunch of guy friends and TRUST ME they are NOT as simple as the internet says. They have their own emotional complexities (even more than me, and I'm a girl myself) and I have no problem with that (we're all human) but what I DO have a problem with is everyone saying on how men are always the ones who don't have "overdramatic" reactions or are always the "less uptight" and "more cool" kind of people.

And I wanna say "Hey I can be like that too, and I'm a girl." WITHOUT being labelled a pick-me.

Thanks for listening.

(NOTE: Any rude comments made to insult will be ignored, have fun).

Long story short, I was talking with one of my parents in the car and I was telling a story on how me and my friend were at the skating rink and we saw a boy who used to go to my school (he graduated) and he tried getting my friend's attention.

So as I was saying the story my parent asked me "Who was the boy?" And I said his name, and I just said the name and I told my parent that he graduated which is why he isn't in the school anymore and a bunch of information because my parent was curious.

But then after I did that my parent literally said "Yeah I always knew you liked boys." I literally was like "Stop right there, wtf?" I'm bi but I prefer girls and after careful talks of explaining on how I prefer girls my parent drops THIS on me? All I did was mention the guy and say information about him (like non-personal info, just "Oh he graduated last year, the end.") and then I get the "I always thought/knew you're into boys." on me.

I just said "Hey I mention a girl with more information and you never said 'oh you LOVE girls' but when I mention a guy (not even personally) I suddenly am straight in your eyes?" They just sighed and said "Look I don't care who you like y'know..." But I was hearing none of it- like if they really didn't care they would stop saying "Nah I think you're genuinely into boys." Most of the time.

I still cringe at that memory, and for the record I never had a crush on a boy in years and all I've been talking about was girls I like. So how anyone would come to the "I think you like boys" conclusion when all I've done was talk about girls (romantically) for the past years really confuses me.

I'm also not so sure if this is bigotry/biphobia/homophobia or if this was a big fat joke on me.