u/East_Tie_1652

all they've had is criticism. i'm distressed when i think about them. and i've tried kindness with them. because they don't care, they have no real memory of that. so they quickly turn it back on me. whatever they're doing to me, they turn back on me and say i'm doing that to them. i still grapple with the distress about disengaging with them, also. and i'm leaving therapy after a few years because i don't think the issue is about me changing my perspective. it's sort of a situation that can't really be fixed by me, but others. and i don't think they will, so it just stays the way it is, until some circumstance changes, one of us passes away, for example. but if i get ill and pass away, i wouldn't call my family for support through any of that. it really comes down to my parents' self-centeredness imo. myself and my siblings are victims of that, to varying degrees, in various ways

... not a difference of opinion. not varied points of view. an extreme self-centeredness by my parents, coupled with them not caring enough to find resolution that works for everyone. they feel and act entitled to be the center of their adult childrens' reality, and they are so for two of them. me, however, i stopped submitting to this. and frankly, they aren't banging down my door as to why. periodically my mother will text me to do a favor for her, or vaguely that she needs help on something important. i don't respond. i've never gotten a how are you from anything, because they don't care and don't want to know. so there ya go