u/Ear_Enthusiast

I'm an assistant on an 8U softball rec team. The HC's kid is the best player on the team but she is obnoxious. To the point of where I probably won't be coaching with this group again. First of all, she just won't take instruction from me. If I tell/ask her to do something or stop doing something she just looks right through me.

She has a cannon for an arm. Most of the girls on the team can't catch well. When she is warming up she just guns it to the kid she's throwing with. Most of the time the other kid just lets it zip by her and spends the entire warmup

chasing balls. She does this in the field too. Just throws excessively hard from too close. She's going to hurt someone.

She tends to go off and do her own thing. If the coach gathers the team to speak, she goes off to get to mess with her bag or get water or gum. She intentionally sabotages drills. Sometimes she'll get in the way of the other girls on purpose while they're getting their reps, and act like they messed it up. The other day during BP she was playing 1B. Instead of rolling the balls back to the mound, she was throwing them out into the parking lot. It's just always something like that. She plays way too rough with the other girls and talks down to them.

Again, I can't say anything to her because she just ignores me. She's an only child. Her mom, who is active with the team too, and dad never correct her. I like coaching with them. I love this group of girls, and my daughter does too. I'm honestly at the point where I just don't want to deal with this kid and I'll probably ask to go to the other team in the fall.

Just venting, I guess, but I'm open to suggestions.

Near Brandermill. Smells like a bad car freshener and Bactine. Kind of medicinal, maybe alcohol-ish.

I'm turning 46. She does this every year. She's going to put pressure on my wife and I to include her with whatever we're doing. The plan every year is to keep it small, and maybe my wife and I get a sitter and go to a restaurant. Every year she makes it about herself. "It was a pretty big day for me too, ya know." Okay? Not sure how I'm supposed to respond to that. Then she acts like there's some conspiracy to exclude her if we don't invite her out. My dad and step mom and the inlaws might call me to wish me a Happy Birthday. My dad will probably ask me if he can host us for dinner to celebrate on a night that isn't my actual bday. But my mom has to be the center of attention. My stepdad, ever the enabler, loves to come to rescue and insist that we are being rude by leaving her out. Gets old. Ruins the day every year, and I am the type of guy that gets excited for my birthday even as I get older.