I just feel so lost and alone..
My life got turned upside down at the end of 2025.
My partner, who is the father to my youngest child and has a child from a previous relationship, that I have helped raise and take care of, broke up with me. He ended a 7 year relationship.
I’m not only losing the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with but I’m losing the connection with the older child. I’ve known the child for over half of his life, I’ve played a huge part in taking care and raising him, especially when his biological mother was absent for a couple of years. I very much consider him to be my son and apart of my family.
We’re currently still living together, stuck in this private rental. The landlord won’t let either one of us off the tenancy agreement. It’s hand in your notice or stay. We’ve got set custody days, as set out by DWP which is the benefits system in the UK as I’m disabled, on benefits. Half the time I’m sleeping on the sofa which is absolutely killing my back and is resulting in more treatments to rectify it. The other half I’m solo parenting our child together whilst also trying to manage the house. He’s given up on his chores and has zero motivation with them. I’m extremely limited in what I can and can’t do so the list of jobs is just pilling up adding more stress.
I can’t afford private rent. Social housing has a 4 year waiting list. The homeless option might not even be an option for me because the council might take my ex partner handing our notice in as me voluntarily given up tenancy. They’re supposed to be contacting me but I keep getting fobbed off with they’ll contact you on this day, the day arrives and nothing. It’s adding to the stress that I am currently experiencing. As I have no idea where I am supposed to live with my child? I can’t move in with family as none of them have a spare room and are at full capacity themselves.
I asked citizens advice for legal advice which they gave me but it is all hanging on what the council will say and they can’t even respond to give me an answer.
I just feel so lost because I don’t know what to do. On the days I don’t have my child, I’m just crying non stop at the thought that eventually my family will be split, I’ll be alone and I’ll have to try get over someone I love so deeply.