Never thought I’d be in this position but I am looking up divorce lawyers. I don’t see any hope of reconciliation with my wife and frankly I am so exhausted and unhappy with our relationship that I want it to be over. I also really want more kids but she does not. We haven’t talked about divorce but I am feeling more certain every day. What do you wish you had known? What should I do to protect myself and my future?
We have an amazing 7 year old son, a vacation cabin, two pets, chickens, and we are massive collectors of books, rocks and minerals, antiques, etc. not to mention a huge workshop for woodworking and blacksmithing. We have built up our home and property so much over 9.5 years married, and it is overwhelming to think about how we will separate everything
Is there any reason to wait until after our 10 year anniversary? Or is that an old wives tale
I do NOT think she will be friendly / amicable throughout the process. There will be no figuring things out together, as much as I would prefer to save the money spent on legal help. I anticipate that as soon as I tell her I want a divorce she will tell me to get out and stay in a hotel and then I lose access to my son, my home, my things, etc
Fuck where do I start.