So for some context it’s my(f) 30th bday this year which is a big mile stone and historically my birthdays have been really really shit (several family member deaths, pet deaths, unfortunate events, job rejections, illness etc. all on my birthday) I genuinely can’t remember having a birthday that’s not ended up being sad and depressing. My 30th was meant to be a big deal for me and my partner (32m) paid a lot of money to take me abroad for my birthday somewhere I have wanted to go to for years.
After we decided we were going we invited my parents to join us as I only see them a couple times a year and last spent a birthday with them over a decade ago. They are incredibly chaotic people but it’s an important milestone for me and I thought they’d like to be there with me. I just wanted a chill, intimate holiday with a select group of loved ones to see in my birthday.
Me and my partner arrived at the airport, met them in the lounge to find they have brought a family friend, Allen, who is an elderly, chaotic, inappropriate man and his friend Glen. I had no idea these people were coming. Allen also shares a birthday with me so we are no longer just celebrating my birthday we are now also celebrating his. I just kinda feel my milestone birthday has been diluted.
My parents had kept this a secret from me as it was meant to be a fantastic birthday surprise…….Happy birthday OP behold Allen…..and his random mate Glen who you have never met 🥳🥳🥳🥳
Glen is nice enough but is genuinely giving off energy vampire vibes and after cursed birthday after cursed birthday I was really really hoping for a quiet relaxing holiday with loved ones. I confronted my parents about it and they’ve essentially brushed it off and been like “but it’s Allen, you like Allen”. “It’ll be fine Allen and Glen will probably go off and do their own things anyway so you don’t have to worry”
My partners gutted because they didn’t tell him about this and he planned the holiday, my mothers upset because she knows I’m unhappy with her and am distancing myself until I’ve had some time to mentally process it and get the sadness out of my system.
AITAH? It’s not at all what I was expecting and my parents were invited as our guests. On the other hand I may be an asshole because Allen has been so excited about this holiday and it’s genuinely going to be an absolute highlight for him, otherwise he would be spending it alone. Hes an old family friend of my parents and has been going through a real tough spot so maybe I am being really selfish and entitled.
I probably would not have even minded so much if I was asked if he could come, I think it’s the being sprung on me and dressed up as an awesome surprise that is the thing that annoys me most.