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I (31F) was talking to this guy (35M) from a dating app for about 3 months. It wasn’t super serious and we weren't looking for a relationship, but we were consistently chatting and I did enjoy the attention and having someone new to talk to.
At first chatting everyday, no promises to meet up, everything was cool- he just wanted someone to talk to, same here. But then when the possibility of us meeting up came, the dynamic was kind of shifted.
He would reply within like 2 days max, but his messages were often a bit dry and I felt like I was the one keeping the conversation going most of the time. On my end, I’ll admit I sometimes replied late too — like a few days, and at most around a week — but that was mainly because I was traveling and in different time zones at that time.
Recently, I replied to his message and he just… never responded. It’s been around 14 days. During that time, he was still watching my stories, which honestly annoyed me. I felt confused and a bit anxious, and eventually decided to let it go. I even removed him from my followers and unfollowed him because I wanted to move on and stop overthinking.
Now, after those 14 days, he suddenly messaged.
No acknowledgment of the gap or anything.
Now I’m conflicted.
On one hand, I don’t really want to talk to him anymore because the inconsistency already made me feel bad, and I don’t want to go back into that cycle.
On the other hand, I feel a bit guilty not replying because I also took time to reply in the past, and I don’t like the idea of “ghosting” someone.
If I’m being honest, I think I miss the feeling of having someone new to talk to more than I actually miss him.
So I’m not sure what to do:
\- Do I just ignore the message and move on?
\- Or do I send a simple reply and see what happens?
Would appreciate outside perspectives because I feel a bit stuck between logic and emotion right now.