Really hurt by comment my T made and not sure if my reaction is justified
I’m having a hard time even typing this out because I feel just as uncomfortable as I did hearing her say it, but my therapist said something that i can’t seem to understand or stop thinking about. I’m wondering if it is in fact weird, or if other things are making me feel emotional about it and taking it like an insult when it wasn’t intended to be..
I hadn’t been feeling understood to any extent in our last few sessions because of the topic being discussed- which actually is about how hurt I’ve been after being misunderstood and judged by the people closest to me. My therapist seems to be taking the approach of trying to get me to understand other people’s perspectives and I guess to get me to see why what happened is ok or understandable…
So this might’ve just come at the wrong time & I was extra sensitive to it because of everything else, but it did seem like it was said in a moment of frustration like she didn’t know what else to say to open up my eyes or something- she asked if I wanted to know what it probably seems like to everyone else, so I said yes and she proceeded to say “it seems like you’re a brat- a spoiled brat”
I felt like she was saying that as herself though, as if that’s what she thinks and was finally telling me straight up. Even if that’s not the case it seems kind of weird to say tho… it really hurt and embarrassed me & didn’t help, just left me feeling even more alone and misunderstood.
Does this seem like something I might’ve been extra sensitive to in the moment because of the other factors at play or is this kind of harsh to say? Or is it safe to assume she was just telling me truth and something I needed to hear?