Me and my boyfriend are both autistic, he is higher than me on the spectrum overall (except for social stuff, I don’t understand the social world)
His parents weren’t very involved in his upbringing so I assume he wasn’t fully taught how to take care of his hygiene, as I’ve had to explain it to him multiple times, to his surprise. He’s 33. But as time has gone on, his hygiene doesn’t change, and I’ve given up on trying to tell him because it comes off as nagging and rude because he is super sensitive to criticism. I hate feeling like I’m an abusive controlling partner by having to continuously tell him his breath stinks, he needs to brush his tongue, his (boy parts) stinks extremely bad all the time, and he HAS to stop constantly farting around me because I hate it and it makes me genuinely repulsed and build resentment fast. He is overweight which is not a big deal but his eating habits themselves are juvenile, like only eating chips and soda and carbs and cheese. Because of all of this, I haven’t had sex with him in a month or more because I’m not sexually attracted right now. He is feeling rejected and unsure about the relationship. I would love to stay together and I like to tell myself that he has the potential to be the best version of himself. But I feel guilty saying no to his advances lately. Ive tried to force myself to say yes but I wasn’t into it and I would be quiet and just close my eyes until it’s over. We used to be really strong in bed, but it’s his hygiene and inability to actually care about his hygiene that has drastically changed attraction for me. I’m looking for advice ☹️ I am also just not “in the mood” overall, it could be a me thing! Female hormones are not predictable so I’ve been wondering if it’s just me right now.