AIO for telling my husband it’s her or me after his late-night “deep talks” with a coworker?
My husband recently admitted that he has been driving around at night with a female coworker—three times, about two hours each time—just to have deep conversations.
He says the conversations were mostly about him, their dynamic, moral values, and even about how strange it is that they are connecting on such a deep level while both being in relationships.
He told me he has developed feelings for her, but doesn’t fully understand them. He also said he has never talked to anyone like this before except me. According to him, she gives him new perspectives that I don’t, because she is more confident and stands up for herself more.
He says he feels guilty towards me, but at the same time doesn’t want to lose these conversations because they are “good for him.” He agreed to stop driving around with her at night, but wants to stay in contact with her.
So… am I overreacting for saying: it’s her or me?
(Also, English isn’t my first language, so I used AI to help translate this.)