Hello,
I am a 35-year-old male seeking advice regarding my mother, whose behavior has created an extremely difficult living situation. I am subjected to daily verbal abuse, cursing, taunts, and threats. As an asexual individual, I have no desire to marry and potentially compromise someone's life. However, my mother is pressuring me to marry and has compelled me to visit doctors who have, unfortunately, given her false hope that injections could alter my asexuality.
Despite seeking therapy for the past year, the situation has not improved. Acknowledging her past efforts in my upbringing, I have consistently endeavored to keep her happy and fulfill her wishes. Nevertheless, she remains perpetually unsatisfied. Her demands have caused me significant financial loss, which I have tolerated without complaint. Recently, upon realizing the extent of these losses, I attempted to voice my concerns, which only intensified her abusive behavior. Her conduct has previously led to police complaints filed by her own family members and several neighbors. I sought legal counsel, but was informed that, regrettably, our country lacks laws addressing parental misconduct of this nature.
I am actively planning to move out and live independently. However, her actions have left me in such a precarious financial state that I must carefully consider every decision. Furthermore, when I discuss moving into a paying guest accommodation, she asserts that she will accompany me, claiming it is my legal obligation to care for her. She consistently uses her status as a senior citizen and single mother to evoke sympathy.
She frequently sends messages filled with abusive and vulgar language, which has profoundly affected me emotionally, leaving me feeling utterly helpless.
I am seeking suggestions on how to effectively manage or extricate myself from this situation.