My 28M bf never wants to have sex?
Okay bit of a rant here but here goes
I’ve been with my bf for 4 years. We live together even moved country together and generally have good fun and deep love for eachother. There’s just one thing and I keep bringing it up with him
We never have sex. Like maybe once a month but that’s about it. I stoppped taking the pill broke down told him I stopped because there was no point if we don’t really do it. And it still didn’t get much better
I’ve got the coil a month ago because I thought our sex life might pick up , we haven’t had sex once since then. I try initiating , try sitting on top of him , kiss him. He’s not interested, he says he’s too tired and we will the next day , we never do
I bring it up and it’s starting to make me angry and resentful I’m 27 and want to have a fun sex life! It’s important to me , I want him to be interested in me like that. He just says he’s never interested in it - like what the hell
Having sex once a month isn’t enough in my opinion, or is that normal and I’m naive ? I’ve been upset about it and told him how I feel , then I feel like there’s too much pressure on us to do it after I say and I feel like then he’s only instigating it because I said I’m upset about it
Please can someone help me get some perspective on this ? It really worries me and makes me not feel wanted in that way even tho he says he does want me like that. I am 100% sure he’s not cheating or anything but like is it normal for him to be so uninterested in sex at 28??
TL;DR bf 28 never wants to have sex with gf 27. Advice needed - every time I mention about it to him I feel like it puts too much pressure on it