u/Due-Nobody-7719

This past weekend I went home, finals are coming up and I hate the school I am at so I just decided to go home. Over the break my roommate had a sorority formal and brought her friends, which was another reason I left because from past experiences, the antics of it all just makes me anxious and I didn’t want to be bothered.

Late Saturday night, I recieved a text from my best friend at home (who is in my roommate’s private story because they had met when she came to visit me) speaking about how many people are sitting on my bed while I am not there. I quickly rushed to the story and saw 2 people I vaugely know sat on the bed, and others that I do not know at all, and at least 5 other people crowding around my bed and a few near the door of my room (I would say about 15 people were over without my knowledge), and only one person on her bed.

I do not mind her having a lot of people over when I am not there, however, I mind this many people sitting on my bed and drinking on it or near it, I have never even done that in my own bed in worries of spilling, but with random people who do not care for me or my stuff I did get pissed off. Because it was a story on Snapchat, I wanted to keep the video and not have her know because I wanted to show the video to others to get their opinion on the situation. When I returned back to the story, I noticed that I was completely taken out of the story, likely in hopes that I would not find out, even though I had just viewed it. My best friend was still on this story and was able to send me the video which is why I was able to get a good count of who was there.

Anyways, I texted her about it, in I guess a stern tone saying that I would appreciate if people were not on my bed, but I do not mind her having the people over at all, just not on my bed. I also clarified that I do not want anyone to sleep on my bed, in fear that she would not care enough to enforce that rule. All I got was a few short responses that didn’t apologize or address my concerns at all.

I came back to the room last night, and even though she had left her mess in the shower and the sink completely clogged, I was open to making conversation, because I did not want to be in an uncomfortable position in my own dorm. I once again only got short responses back and even today no conversation, even though we were extremely close last Thursday.

I’m planning to just let this week play out and not try to converse anymore because clearly anything I say is being disregarded from a conversation I had no choice but to address.