u/Ducks_on_Mars_2560

So I can already hear people saying ‘this is a terrible idea’ and I kind of agree but hear me out: I’m already out to most of my family and will fully come out once I graduate. I have a plan to go on t at 18. I am insanely lucky and live by an informed consent clinic in a state that doesn’t enti hate trans people, so getting on HRT isn’t my big concern. I just know that my parents aren’t too attentive to me, so I can wait around until they would normally notice to tell them I’m medically transitioning. If I do that I’ll have more time to save up some money and pass better if I have to move out once I start medically transitioning. I kind of just want to run this by some more experienced people if any of you have advice or want to point out holes in my plan.

Long story short I’very been looking for jobs everywhere that’s hiring, and somehow Crumbl found my number probably because I forgot I turned on the employers finding you setting on indeed. I got hired really fast because they’re super short staffed. I’m a guy who’s only worked at pretty feminine or cis girl dominated places (coffee shop, community theatre, farmers market) and women are epic annd all but every time I get massive dysphoria from going to work because I just get treated l a lesbian. I’m not allowed to turn down a job offer when im unemployed because family but I’d rather prove to others and, let’s be honest, myself, that my hate for work is the crippling dysphoria of being a perceived as a girl rather than poor work ethic and general failure. I plan on working there while continuing to look for a less feminizing job, but my family is really struggling with the idea that I’m going to interviews while employed.
side note, I don’t actually think that things like making coffee are a ‘woman’s job’, I just want to work in a more stereotypically androgynous or masculine position until I can get on t and at least appear more like a trans guy than lesbian. I’m probably more upset about it than I normally would be also because I’m playing Oberon in theatre and my costume looks a lot like a dress on me because the costume department lost my measurements, plus my parents keep deadnaming and misgendering me and my brothers use deadnaming me as a threat to get me to do stuff but don’t call me by my name either way. My parents are insistent on things that just aren’t true about trans people and I have massive bodies of evidence but I don’t want to argue with them for everyone’s sake and the only time my mom called me by my name in months, she was trying to make me be catholic again. I feel like I’m in some strange spy situation where I get betrayed either way