u/DryadAbominationn

Feeling like a breeding machine

As the title says, I feel like the church just treats me as a breeding machine. The emphasis on women's-main-purpose-is-to-have-kids gets pretty harmful to my mental health. And before anybody tells me to speak with a priest, I already spoke with my priest and he just told me to stop worrying and that God wouldn't help but to pray anyway. I see priests online encouraging large families and harmful behaviors, like suggesting that older kids look after younger ones. My priest told me that once I became my mother i'd feel some maternal instinct but im currently pregnant and feel nothing but destain for my baby. I've spoken with medical professionals and they tell me that how I feel is normal and that I should get an abortion, which I can't due to faith. I've spoken with my priest, and he says that there's something horribly wrong with woman who don't bond immediately, despite what my medical professionals say. I'm at a loss of who to listen to, the priest or my medical professionals. I was already at a very bad time in my life and begging God to even just give me a glimmer of hope but instead he gave me a (unintentional) pregnancy that I hate. Me and my husband are struggling extremely financially, and everybody keeps telling us that God will provide, but he's not providing us good insurance for the baby nor is he providing me any good mental health. I'm at a loss and feel like God is just ignoring me and kicking me while I'm down. Even the virgin Mary is revered only because she gave birth. And online, it just seems even worse like every priest and Orthodox Christian just wants me to stay home and be a breeding machine. I'm a person with hopes and dreams, not just a birthing machine but the church seems to not care and just wants me to push out babies until I drop and its hurtful

edit: thank you all for the kind words, support, and wisdom, I appreciate it a lot especially in these difficult times

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u/DryadAbominationn — 1 day ago

Best cheap health insurance for pregnancy (no medicaid)

Anyone know a halfway, decent insurance for labor and delivery costs thats ACA compliant? I can't use medicaid or any government assistance due to my partner currently being in immigration process (our lawyer said it would negatively affect my partners case and majority screw over our sponsor). I just found out that i'm pregnant and my part time job doesn't offer insurance.And my partner is self employed and cannot afford expensive insurance

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u/DryadAbominationn — 2 days ago

Thinking of becoming a medical assistant

What's it like being a medical assistant? I currently work building maintenance and its a stressful physically demanding job, so I'm looking into other careers, and have a few questions. Is working at a clinic less stressful than a hospital? How easy is it to get a job at a clinic? How stressful is the job in general? Are there part-time positions for medical assistants or is it just full time? What are some things I should know about this profession? What does daily work life look like?

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u/DryadAbominationn — 2 days ago