u/Dry_Tree_9516

So, I want to start by saying that I proposed a few weeks ago for the girl that I have a crush on since I was a kid. So, she liked me back and things went well. Her mother was nice at that time with my family. But after a few days, the mother started to sound arrogant and narcissistic. She had some disagreement with our family, but she started to use insults and slurs towards my family, especially my dad. And my dad was completely respectful. So after this, my dad was upset about this, but he said, I will tolerate this because you want to marry this woman's daughter. But what made thinks worse is that the mother of my fiancé actually responded to my dad. She tried to apologize, but What she did is that she apologized and seconds later she started insulting him, calling him an ignorant or a person who doesn't know anything and things like this. And my dad he kept being patient about this, but yesterday he sat down with me and told me that, this woman is toxic. Yes, I know you like her daughter so much and stuff like that, but this is a red flag that will probably you'll see more even after your marriage. So what I did is that I tried to talk with my fiancee about this, but she has no impact on her mother. She even with her brothers, they told me that their mother had an anger issues, but that doesn't take the responsibility away. So what my dad advised me about is that he told me to leave this option, which is my fiancee. Go for another girl with like less toxic, less annoying or aggressive family. And he said to me, if you are not willing to do that, then I will support you, but I will not be present. And this engagement, like in your marriage day, things like that, I will try to avoid this woman because she disrespected me. So I am like in a tough situation right now. What should I do exactly ??