Not sure what to expect, looking for hope
My Q and I have been together 6 years almost and in our mid-late 20s. I’ve seen him struggle with substances in the past, which he cut out after a rock bottom moment when we had first started seeing each other. But over the course of our relationship I’ve seen him struggle with alcohol. Not knowing limits, doing stupid things.
I’ve been in therapy for over a year now and I’ve learned the more I try to control his drinking the less he is in control and she has suggested me to Al anon. Yesterday I found out he hid a prescription he took recreationally from me. (I think this group is just for drinking so if that’s the case just focus on that part because yes he’s still an alcoholic whether or not he has other addictions) Before I had found it he was talking about how he scheduled counseling and addiction is part of that too so he’s getting help because we had a conversation earlier in the week where I voiced that I feel alone in that I’m trying to better myself for us and I don’t see that for him.
After finding this bottle yesterday I had a therapy session today and I am going to work through the al anon 12 steps before I make any decisions on my relationship and leave out of anger when a huge part of me wants to stay and be supportive. We have been through so much and he’s an incredible partners minus his addiction. I believe he can do it if he’s determined because he is a strong person but I want to know if I’m being delusional. I just don’t see many stories of this working out on here.
Lots of these posts are encouraging leaving the Q. I just want to know if there are any situations that work out where you don’t.