My bf is a very regimented, non whimsical, not very emotional or sappy kind of guy. He’s very good at optimizing his life . He runs very much like a well oiled machine and he’s so good at it . He does inspire me to be my best self, always strive to be getting better at everything I do and a lot of the times I appreciate this because I am his polar opposite. I am very emotional. I’m very whimsical. I seek fun in life before I seek optimization. I do things just because they’re enjoyable and if they’re not enjoyable anymore, I stop doing them. Even though I appreciate a plan I also love spontaneity and switching up routine.
The problem that I’m running into is the fact that I feel like our lives are becoming so monotonous, which he will agree with me if I ask him. We both work full-time jobs and only have Sunday off together so we have to squeeze family time. , individual hobbies, and time together, basically all in one day. He’s also very frugal which again I do appreciate and I’m not irresponsible with money however, it gets frustrating when I suggest something and he says “I don’t want to spend money on that” says he wants to take a trip or save for something but the reality is we don’t really have the money to be going on a big trip so in my head I feel like we can add to our lives in small ways, like trying a new restaurant or activity in town but he sees that as a frivolous expense and just doesn’t wanna do it. He’s also never interested in doing anything during the week because he “has to work the next day” or he’s tired . Which I get but then that literally leaves only one day to pack in everting .
I understand wanting to save and plan for the future but at the same time I’m feeling like our lives are just becoming so dull and it’s really eating into our relationship. I’m not happy and I can tell that he’s not happy either. Just because all we do is dictated by work and routine.
How can I bring sparkle back to my life while also respecting my relationship and putting our needs as a couple first