I just got out of a two year relationship, we were going fine up until I got a job.
Because of unprocessed feelings from their own life, me getting a job triggered them into a mental crisis and caused them to be very manipulative, mean, and backhanded, although it was all by accident due to their mental state.
Bad mental state or not, their actions are still things that they did, and it all accumulated into 8 months of constant arguments, crying and screaming, and very hurtful and mean comments to both myself and my friends.
Towards the breakup, I had felt very unloved and couldn't feel that love I once felt for them, and started gaining feelings for another.
My feelings for this other person has nothing to do with the fact that I broke up with my now ex, as they hurt me and dulled me down to the point where I felt so useless, pointless, and unloved, I couldn't do anything else but break up for them
Basically, the reason I'm coming here is because I'm asking a question that's been running around in my head for days:
Is okay to feel feelings towards another person when my ex became someone who was extremely emotionally abusive towards me?