Has anyone noticed how neurotypical women will pull the bait and switch
For example, I was at a party a few days ago. This girl who I have mild beef with asks me with a smile "how are you? what have you been up to?" I respond and ask her how she's doing. And as I am in the middle of answering she looks away and starts talking to someone else. This was not nearly as devastating as it would have been if it had occurred when I was younger, because this time it's like I saw the gears move. Suddenly, my earlier experiences made so much more sense. It's not that they didn't hear me or lost interest due to my response being boring, it's that they deliberately ask you a question or otherwise bait you into engaging so that they can disengage and feel socially superior as a result.
The issue with responding to this is that it's very easy to look unhinged, which again, plays into their game. I think next time what I'll do is tap her on the shoulder or say her name very loudly and say "excuse me, that was very rude. I wasn't sure if you realized, but adults don't behave this way." or something. It's still a bit unhinged, but I think as long as you say it calmly and clearly, it makes you look not insane while still sticking up for yourself. It also makes her look bad if she fails to respond correctly.