I dont even know why I am here but I think I am here out of frustration and just feeling like I am alone. I've been married to my husband for like a year but we've been together for 7 years. He has a problem with boundaries when it comes to female friends, or generally just women. He tends to be overfriendly, he overshares and just plainly gives access to women, especially those who DM him on Instagram. (He's in a career that exposes him to alot of women). Sometimes, it even becomes borderline flirting. He thinks he's just being nice but ... you know girls. We are emotional beings. Attention kidogo and we are already catching feelings.
We've talked about putting boundaries and he says that he is working on it but ... tell me why almost every month, some girl comes to my DM telling me how she is going to steal my husband from me? How they're going to seduce my husband? Its just so .... I don't even know how to describe it anymore.
I know some women don't really care if a man is married or not but aki his DM's are full of women. All this has made me insecure, I feel awful, I no longer feel emotionally safe with him, I feel like there is something he is looking for that I dont have. And this lacking boundaries thing, started after we got married.
My thoughts are all over the place, I know. I just dont know how to articulate exactly what I feel right now and I am turning to Reddit to rant because I dont have anyone else to talk to. I need advice ladies.