Girlfriend’s behavior getting more extreme
My girlfriend and I’s relationship has been getting worse and worse. There’s constant arguing and problems, I’ve tried to end it with her multiple times because it’s very exhausting. I know most of it stems from her needing/wanting reassurance, which I have no problem with, but she never listens to me and everything is wrong to her. She wants me to tell her that I hate her, when I tell her that’s not true at all and I really love her, I’m a liar and disgusting person. If I do tell her I hate her (I wouldn’t), I’d still be a terrible and disgusting person to her. This has gotten a lot worse and more intense over the past few months, she has been self harming more frequently due to it, usually during arguments or when I try to end it. If we’re arguing on the phone/over text she will take pictures of her bloody wrist or leg that she just cut and send it to me. And it’ll usually include things like “you did this to me”, “this is how you make me feel”, etc. It makes me feel terrible and I end up not leaving because she guilts me into staying. I’ve called the cops to do a check on her multiple times but she lies every time, saying she didn’t do anything and I’m making it up because I was mad at her. I’ve told her if she keeps it up I’m going to get her admitted to a hospital but she starts freaking out, begging me not to make her go. It makes me feel bad because of how distraught she gets with even the idea of being in the hospital, I know she’s had bad experiences at inpatients before. Not really sure what to do anymore or how to get out of this. Is it going to keep getting worse? Is there any hope of her getting better?