We both WANT it, but that doesn't seem to matter
Creating a throwaway just for this.
My husband has a HL, I used to have a HL before kids. I have always been submissive sexually, and he also tends to lean submissive. We didnt think this would be such a big deal at the beginning of our marriage, however I think it is taking its toll.
Over the years I have expressed the need for romance and foreplay to get aroused. I have a hard time communicating exactly what I need in the moment, so I have tried using examples from romantic TV shows and movies. It has all been met with mockery of the media and not consideration.
We went to couples counseling and attended 6 sessions before he called it quits and stopped funding (I'm a SAHM). The counselor told him he needed to step up with household chores during our last session. He has been helping more around the house and with our child, but things still feel off.
I have gotten my hormones checked, gone to personal therapy, and generally explored every option on my end to increase my interest. I just can't get myself going without feeling romantically pursued. We are both unsatisfied and I am at a loss of what more I can personally do.