I (27m) have been with my partner (29f) for 5 years and we had an amazing sex life while I was closeted about being what I liked being bi. When I first started to talk about my sexual desires we tried stuff and I was told that she was into it and she liked it. But she never led more than the initial times - which was fine because I can be hot and cold on the bi stuff.
More recently our sex life has been no Bueno. Mainly because there's been almost no outwardly desire towards me. I understand I am not a heteronormative man. But we have been in love for 4 to 5 years. So I talked about how I was feeling that I wasn't desired and that my interests or kinks if you would didn't seem to matter (I started to get rejected for those things even when we were having sex)
What I got back was hurtful. I was told she wasn't interested in any of that "gay shit" and I didn't even try to have sex anymore... which is true because I shouldn't be the only one to try and I am hurt by that. So I said we'll if we rebuild our connection can I find a way to express those kinks or desires separately and the response was more slightly bigoted things like the assumption that just meant I want to put a dildo in my ass. Etc.
I don't know how to feel. I know relationships are stressful but this won't just end this is me. I'm very sexually fluid. I can be interested in lots it's just who I am. And so what do I do. Because when i said that hurt a lot she said she didn't care.