My wife left me for her girlfriend - can we be friends?
My wife and I were together for 10 years. 6 months into dating her girlfriend she started questioning our relationship for the first time (she said she wasn’t sure we have romantic or sexual attraction anymore, even though we were intimate and really romantic with each other - dates, thoughtful gifts, trips away etc). From my perspective it was (even subconscious) comparison with her new relationship but she doesn’t think that played a role.
Cut to now, four months later, and we’ve ended the marriage as she felt it would restrict her relationship with her girlfriend (she and I lived together and she wanted to be able to live with her girlfriend and I guess pursue a more “traditional” relationship like what she and I had with pets etc). She moves on with her girlfriend this weekend, just two weeks after moving out saying she wanted to live alone.
It’s really hard for me not to feel like I’ve just been replaced. She really wants us to still be friends, and I want that too as she’s my family after all this time. But I have no roadmap for navigating this. Any advice on how we can proceed with the intent to be friends is very welcome, especially if you’ve “de-escalated” a relationship like this before!
EDIT: just because most comments are assuming im a guy, im a woman and this was a lesbian / queer marriage