36M and 35F Ex-Wife (not divorced yet), can we rekindle the marriage?
So around 2 years ago I walked out on my Wife a kids, the marriage wasn't bad the relationship beforehand wasn't bad, we had small arguments but that was about it.
Sadly we never made any effort towards each other, apart from sex, no dates, cuddles on the sofa with a movie or romantic meals.
We discussed things but family life always got in the way and I guess I didn't see any other way than to leave.
We have 2 kids and contact over the last 2 years has been consistent, some flirty messages but nothing serious, just our usual banter.
About 2 months ago after a long hard think on everything we have been through i admitted that I miss her daily and still love her more than anything, neither of us have moved on and for the time being have agreed to work on a friendship outside co-parenting.
We spend most lunchtimes together and when dropping off or picking up the kids I spend time with her just speaking and laughing.
We have of course discussed the possibility and I have my reservations as does she.
We both have admitted and identified where we went wrong in the marriage.
We are going for lunch on Wednesday then Go Karting to see who the best drive is 🙈
My problem is I love hard, I don't want to rush back into anything that might hurt either of us and we have agreed that should we decide to give things ago, it will stay between us until we are sure we can make it work, we don't want to hurt the kids, they are our main priority but families also have opinions and we don't want that to impact our decisions.
We feel that if it were to come to it, we could keep it a secret for a couple months or something like that then at least when we announce it, we can tell people it's been happening for a period of time.
I guess my question is, does anyone have any advice on how not to rush things, how not to scare her away and how to make sure we both give this everything we have.
Family like if hectic and I don't want to slip back into not making the time and effort for one another because of family life.
Tldr