My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit, and overall things are good, but something has been bothering me more and more and I don’t know if I’m overreacting.
We have a pretty consistent routine during the week, we text throughout the day, have a short call around 5, and sometimes another call later at night. On weekends, we usually stay over at one of our places and spend that time together.
The issue is that multiple times during the week, he’ll cut our calls short to go play video games with his friends. It annoys me, but I’ve kind of brushed it off because I understand he wants time with them too.
But on weekends, it bothers me a lot more. We’re physically together, usually at his place, and he’ll still spend a few hours gaming with his friends. During that time, I’m just kind of… there. I don’t really have anything to do at his place, and my hobbies aren’t super portable, so I end up either sitting around or taking a nap while he plays for a couple hours.
What’s making it harder for me to process is that he already sees these friends a lot during the week. They go out for drinks, hang out, smoke, and have regular game nights, all outside of the time he and I spend together. So when he still prioritizes gaming with them during our limited weekend time, it feels off to me.
I’ve tried bringing it up, and his response is basically that they’re his friends and he doesn’t talk to them all day like he does with me. Which is true, but he does see them pretty frequently in person.
I’m starting to feel like he’s not balancing his time well between his relationship and his friendships, but I also don’t know if I’m being unfair or expecting too much. I don’t want to be controlling or make him feel like he can’t have his own life.
Am I being dramatic here? Or is it reasonable to want more of his attention, especially when we’re already together in person?