I (18F) feel like my partner (20M) redirects blame to me in arguments.
My boyfriend and I have been together for around 5 months or so and I feel like I am always the one apologizing during our arguments every time. Last night, we played some games and watched a show on discord and I was really tired because I’d only slept 3 hours the previous night. I explained to him how I was too tired to do anything anymore and he sighed and said “Okay… goodnight”. To me, he seemed annoyed by me wanting to sleep because he had really wanted to keep watching the show and I felt odd with him saying goodnight to me without an “I love you”. I responded with “seriously”? and he replied with “What? What else is there for me to say?” and it seemed like he wasn’t interested in saying I love you. All I said was “[you can say] I love you… but okay” and left the call. I wish I could show our messages after but in summary he basically told me that I ruined a good night by acting petty, being rude, etc. I explained to him that I was primarily upset because he had gotten upset at me a few weeks ago for doing the same thing by saying goodnight without an I love you and ever since then I had told him that I would make sure to say it often and for sure every time before I went to bed. I felt like he was really acting hypocritical but he ended up saying that I don’t deserve an apology because it would just “enable my behavior”. In my eyes, even when I can’t fully understand why someone is upset at me I apologize anyways because it’s just the right thing to do. I’m not saying my behavior wasn’t childish but I feel really unsatisfied with the idea that I will have to “earn” an apology for his actions. This isn’t the only time something like this has happened but the most recent that I can remember. I just need help on how to approach this issue or for someone to tell me if I’m completely wrong and how to correct myself.