On Monday this week around midday, my mom told me she’d be leaving the country on Thursday. I didn’t think much of it at the time.
Then yesterday around 4 p.m., she asked me if I could do her schoolwork while she’s gone. Not just assignments either, she also wants me to log into her classes and basically attend them for her, which adds up to around 40 hours.
I told her no because I’m not comfortable doing someone else’s schoolwork or pretending to be them in classes. It just doesn’t sit right with me.
She keeps pushing though, and now she’s saying she “needs to show me how to log in,” like I’ve already agreed. I haven’t. I’ve said no multiple times.
Part of her reasoning is that I’m unemployed right now so she thinks I have the time, but I’ve actually already made my own plans for while she’s gone. I have dental appointments, doctor’s appointments, an assessment, and I’m working with an employment program on my resume and next steps, so I’m not just sitting around.
Also, this isn’t an emergency trip. It’s a Vacay/Pleasure treip. For a lot of reasons I have reservations about this trip and her priorities but thats a post for another day...
I’m also not dependent on her, so it’s not like I owe her this in that way.
I do feel a bit bad because she’s my mom and I get that she doesn’t want to fall behind, but this feels like a lot to ask, especially last minute.
AITA for sticking to my no here?
Also if feel free to ask questions if you need more context about anything.
Thanks in advance