Got told I ruined her first Mother's Day, feel like a jerk
So our daughter turned 8 months a few days ago and here in North America it is mother's day, so my wife's first one. I work a service job so it's the busiest time for us, like reservations through the roof, so I was at work all day. Admittedly, I didn't get her a card etc to open in the morning, I had to say "morning, happy mother's day" before heading to work. But on the way home I got a nice card, a bouquet of flowers, a fancy bottle of wine and bought her take out Thai food which is her favorite.
Fast forward to now and she's in tears as she's breastfeeding our daughter, I'm like what's wrong and she said she guesses she could have been made to feel more special today, like I'm not sure what else I could do? I have to work as I'm the only one bringing an income in, like now I feel like absolute crap. I feel there's more underlying than this as she says she cries most nights because of me, like I didn't think I was that bad, I feel so guilty I can't do more to help out around the house, but I'm working 2 jobs to keep is going, I try my best to help out around the house, like I clean the whole place on my days off etc, I get groceries on the way home from work. Like is it ok for us Dad's to struggle? I mean I'm sorry I'm not there forst thing in the morning to do diapers, I want to be, but I have to work