u/Drakenstorm98

Hi there, I am a 27yr male. I’m going to give a lot of back story here but here we go. I’ve been a truck driver the past 6 years thus I’ve stayed single my entire adult life. I’ve always wanted to be a parent as I love my non blood nieces and nephews and would give my life for them. I stay very active in their life. One avenue I learned about earlier this year is foster care and started following people like Peter and I think the other guy is Jesse. So I’ve been starting it off and on research here and there. I’m getting ready for a complete life and career change to prepare for the possibility of one day starting a family whether it’s traditional or fostering or foster to adopt. My current plan next year is to get into banking because from what I’ve seen it’s pretty stable and can offer great work life balance compared to what I’m doing now and it can pay decent.

I’ve always wanted to be the father I never had (bio dad not in my life and step dad had his own things to work out but now in my twenties we are decently close)
Anyways I have a bunch of questions so here we go
\- any career advice or recommendations to better support the extra care and schedule the child/children need
\-what would you recommend I study over the next few years to better prepare myself for this
\-providing if and when this happens what kind of children would I expect to have in my care
\-will being a single male place stricter guidelines on children I’d be placed with? The only thing I can come up with in my head is I’d not be a good fit for a child that dealt with male abuse
\-if you could build a bear me what would you suggest I look into changing in my life or learning to be a better foster dad
\- Im under the impression I’d be asked what ages and genders I’d prefer am I allowed to have different choices based on if it’s just fostering vs foster to adopt

Really just learning and putting feelers out there I have a lot of love to give and want to give a child a safe place to heal and remember they are deserving of love

Just rambling more at this point but I have more nieces than nephews and more female friends than male friends so I think I’d rock being a girl dad
Last week my niece did an awesome job at doing my makeup 🤣🤣
And this week I got her cute unicorn jewelry and a unicorn terrarium night light for her birthday coming up!

More rambling in a traditional sense I’d love to have siblings 2 boys (my little potential gamer partners)
2 girls because who doesn’t love showing up to work with pink nails because his daughter wanted to paint his nails so he could be handsome

In the case of fostering it’s the kids first and creating and environment where they can heal and be safe and hopefully reunification as I’m clear that’s the ultimate goal and every kid deserves to go back home to mom and dad providing all the steps were followed

I’ve learned it’s very tough and navigating their trauma can be hard on them and me so like what do I need to learn
Also is it okay to cry out of joy and sadness at the same time when they do go home

So yeah I’m not sure if all this makes sense but from what I’ve shared what do I need to learn and understand before doing this or who knows maybe from what I’ve said thus far maybe I come off as a bad fit

Anyways if you’re here thanks for reading this far, I’ll follow up as best as I can
You all rock
God bless