Hey Everyone,
We are T-minus four hours until my rehearsal dinner and T-minus 12 hours until my wedding. Super stoked.
My best man is having a few issues and I’m not really sure what to do. After he agreed to be best man, some more details came together in the planning process that he seems uneasy about. He’s a nice guy but has said he’s not that comfortable around little kids. My 2 YO niece is our flower girl and will be doing the first dance with my fiancé and I at the reception. She’s awesome and it is extremely important to us that she’s front and center to whatever extent possible (and yes, we have my brother’s blessing on this and he’s helping in any way he can). We also have a few other kiddos in the wedding party, such as my nephew (3, ring bearer) and my friends kid (2, there for cuteness). After my best man agreed to be there for me, we later on decided to pair each kiddo with a member of the wedding party. Best man says he’s not comfortable being paired with my niece, which really bothers me. She’s basically our kid too. He says he doesn’t know how to handle any possible meltdowns/screamy episodes. I don’t really have an answer for that…they’re kids, and we decided to include them anyway knowing that that would be a factor.
How would you handle this? It’s already awkward, and I’m inclined to say it’s his problem. But I know there’s a chance she doesn’t make it through (she’s 2, so anything is on the table). Mom and dad may come and get her if she gets really loud but we would honestly prefer not because we still want her in the wedding party, screaminess and all! (If it comes to that)
We’ll see how it goes at the rehearsal tonight, and if my best man doesn’t handle it well I may have to make a last minute change.