u/DommiiTay

Hiiii everyone, so I’m just curious how others would handle this…. If someone you thought was your best friend (10+ years) ghosted you after an argument almost 2 months ago, would you text them happy birthday on their birthday? I’m wondering if we are even still friends in their eyes so I don’t know if I should text or not. Argument was a minor disagreement. Once I expressed my hurt, they apologized but withdrew conversation shortly after and blamed it on starting a new medication..

Hiiii everyone, so I’m just curious how others would handle this…. If someone you thought was your best friend (10+ years) ghosted you after an argument almost 2 months ago, would you text them happy birthday on their birthday? I’m wondering if we are even still friends in their eyes so I don’t know if I should text or not. Argument was a minor disagreement. Once I expressed my hurt, they apologized but withdrew conversation shortly after and blamed it on starting a new medication..

Here’s the dilemma, my friend (F27) and I (F27) have been friends for going on 15 years. Some of my best memories in my teen years were with her. We have had a couple falling outs over the years but always return to eachother and mend it.

A couple months ago, I was going through the end of a relationship (prior to the actual break up) and my friend knew how much I needed someone to support me. We scheduled a time to talk over FaceTime so I could vent. On that FaceTime she was extremely dismissive, laughing at the things I was telling her I was going through, telling me I should upload dating stories to TikTok because it’s “so funny”. I was genuinely dying inside and hurting. I called her out on it a few weeks later cuz I just couldn’t shake the feelings from how she handled that call. I poured my heart out, didn’t blame her but shared how it hurt me. Everything changed after that.

She stopped responding for days or reaching out. I finally asked her if everything was okay - I had a gut feeling she didn’t like me standing up for myself to her. She blamed it on “I’m on a new medication and it’s been giving me a lot of anxiety so I’m in my own world” - okay cool I respect that and I told her I respect her need for space. Except in her “own world” she’s still frequently posting on social media and watching everything I post. It’s been 7 weeks now since we last spoke and this was someone who I thought was my best friend. It also sucks because she knew I had broken off my engagement and didn’t reach out a single time to check in.

I’ve been considering breaking things off officially, removing her off everything and letting that speak for itself. No long messages. I just don’t know if I’ll regret that decision. But the version of “best friend” she showed me, is not who I thought she was at all. I don’t know if I can forgive her.