I (24F) have been seeing my bf (25M) since December , the following story occurred two months into us seeing eachother. Our relationship started off weirdly cause he had dating apps on his phone he refused to delete (tinder, hinge, bubble, BOO....) and only did so after I confronted him multiple times.
Point is, he claims to be a very relationship orientated person (I'm his second relationship, his previous lasted 7 years) and he would never cheat on me. However, he did.
On the night of his party, me and my two girlfriends went to his party where I met some other friends of his as well as his "step sister". A polygamorous woman (21+F) who was his friend since childhood but moved into his family house due to personal familial turmoil for about a year. And whenever he would talk about her, he would refer to her as his "step sister ".
At the party, she apparently made comments to him about how great my ass looked. To cut a long story short, he kept vanishing throughout the night, upstairs with him, and when I would point out how weird it was he would pop by to see me for a bit and vanish again. During that time I felt super bad, and later He told me they were discussing something very serious regarding her recent abortion. That's all the time where she asked for a kiss, which he gave her. On the lips. He claims that the early morning hours of that night, she asked him to engage in sexual behaviours and jerked him off until he finished.
Here's the justification part:
At first he claimed he didn't want it, but had control
Then he said it doesn't count as cheating cause we were not technically together (the following morning he called me asking me to talk and discuss being in a relationship)
THEN he said they didn't technically have sex
Claimed that she was the best possible person he could "cheat" on me with because he doesn't have feelings for her
And finally, said that he didn't feel connected to me ,and didn't love me, as opposed to now.. two months later and after multiple arguments.
Since then he has "blocked her" from his life, apparently banning her from his house and family.
Multiple other things have happened between us to cause strain, some coming from my end, which I am not sharing at the moment due to my main concern being his justification over this cheating situation. I want to know if I'm crazy or not for wanting to breakup and being unable to get this situation although as he said it's "in the past".
I can also share my wrong doing in this relationship, somu can get the large picture, more stuff will have to be brought forward from his OTHER wrongdoing too (stalking and belittlement).