u/DogValuable1792

I leave for basic training the end of june. I'm a pretty small female. i'm only 5'6 and 110 pounds [technically underweight but this is my natural weight. My weight has never matched my height. it actually took me 3 years to go from 107 pounds to 110 pounds]. I do not work out much. I started on planks [i could only do 20 seconds and now i can do a minute] and running and im getting better at that. But no matter what I do I can't get a pushup done. I tried doing wall pushups but i can not transition from the wall to the floor. Do i need to work on my core more? Or do I need to start lifting weights? I don't have much time to prepare

I (F25) have been close friends with a guy (M28) since early 2024. We talk for hours on the phone, watch movies together, and joke around a lot. I’ve always treated him the same way I treat my female friends—just friendly, nothing flirty from my perspective. At one point, he told me he thought I was flirting with him, which confused me because I interact with him the same way I do with my other friends. Around 3 months ago, he admitted he had feelings for me. I told him I didn’t feel the same way and that I’m not really interested in a relationship right now. Or more specifically I said I haven't thought about dating anyone and it's possible those feelings could come in the far future but I have things to do [I go to basic training in 2 months and dont get back from AIT until october!]. He said he needed some space to deal with his feelings, so we stopped talking as much for a while.

Recently, we started talking again like we used to, and I thought everything was fine. I know he probably still had feelings but he never crossed any of my boundaries, we talked less, and we were actually only on the phone to watch a movie. With my long distance friends sometimes I'll watch tv or movies with them through a shared screen. One of the reasons I also trusted him is because he's honest. Today he told me that something was weighing on his heart heavily. He doesn't like lying or keeping secrets, so.

Today, he told me he had something weighing on his conscience and was acting really nervous about telling me. After a lot of hesitation, he admitted that during one of our calls, I had a couple accidental nip slips. He said he noticed them and got turned on. That was weird and I was little uncomfortable but it wasn't that serious to me because you can't really control that I guess. BUT then he said he TOOK A SCREENSHOT? Mind you i have an A CUP so to see a nip slip from me means you have to really be looking hard at my chest. I barely have a chest. Anyways I tried to justify it by saying you can't control what you're attracted to but now that I think about it, is what he did not considered a crime or am I over reacting? He had a screenshot of my nipple in his phone that I did not consensually/ purposely show him on the phone and even if I had I would never give him consent to screenshot it. Am i over reacting by considering this a crime or maybe not a crime but BORDERING on criminal activity. I'm thinking about cutting him off and blocking him or atleast never getting on call again.