I really need an outside perspective because I feel like I’m starting to lose trust in my own judgment.
My boyfriend constantly accuses me of cheating or talking to other guys, even though I’m not doing anything wrong. It’s been an ongoing thing in our relationship.
Recently, a friend told me he saw messages on another girl’s phone where my boyfriend was flirting with her. Apparently, the girl even told him not to tell me. What makes it worse is that this same girl has been watching my stories for weeks even though she doesn’t follow me.
When I brought it up to my boyfriend, he got very defensive and denied everything. He told me he hasn’t spoken to her in a year and that she supposedly said she hopes we both die, which honestly just sounds extreme and confusing. He also said she blocked him back in 2022, but the timeline doesn’t really make sense to me.
This isn’t the first time I’ve dealt with something like this either. Before we were officially together, he was involved with another girl and lied about it while making me feel like I was the one overthinking or being crazy.
Now I’m stuck between feeling like something is off and wondering if I’m just overreacting. The constant accusations from him are also really draining.
Also I messaged her saying “hey” but she completely ignored the message and he went ghost on me for about 4 days now.
Am I ignoring obvious red flags here? Or is there a chance I’m reading too much into the situation?
I’d really appreciate honest opinions.
TL;DR: Boyfriend constantly accuses me of cheating, but now there are signs he might be flirting with another girl and his story doesn’t add up. I feel confused and don’t know if I’m overthinking or ignoring red flags.