u/DoffQuob

Pretty standard situation. I have a desk chair that's perfectly fine, just upgrading to something better for my back. Listed it on Facebook Marketplace, free, collection only, stated that clearly in the post. Added that I couldn't do evenings or weekends because of my schedule.

First few messages were normal. Then I get this response from someone that starts with "hi lovely" and goes on for quite a while. The short version is: she really needs the chair, her current chair is causing her back problems, she works from home, she has a lot going on at the moment, her car is at the garage, her partner works full time, and she was wondering if there was any way I could drop it off since I "already have a car."

I do have a car. The chair is free. I get that. But it's a desk chair, I live about 25 minutes from her, and the whole reason I listed it as collection only is because I'm not running a delivery service. I replied politely saying sorry I really can't do dropoff, collection only as listed. She came back asking if I could "just this once" because of everything she had going on. I said no again, wished her luck finding something.

She left me a one star review on marketplace saying I was "unhelpful and unfriendly."

The chair was free. I was giving it away. I said no to driving it across town for someone I've never met and apparently that makes me unfriendly. Anyway, second person who messaged collected it the same afternoon, no drama, brought a friend to help carry it.

So me and my roommate Lisa have lived together for about a year and a half. Overall it's been fine, she's not messy, we don't fight about dishes or whatever. The issue is she has this habit of being late on her half of the rent, like not by a lot, usually a few days, but our landlord is kind of old school and gets anxious about it. So a few months ago Lisa asked me to just tell him "it's coming, we had a banking issue" whenever he texts me, because apparently he has my number from some early maintenance thing and reaches out to me first sometimes.

I did it twice and felt weird about it both times but I told myself it's not a big deal, she always paid eventually. Then last month she was late again and he texted me and I just said I didn't know the status of her payment and he should contact her directly. She found out and got really upset, said I "threw her under the bus" and that I broke her trust.

But like, I'm not on the lease together with her in a way that makes her payments my responsibility? We have separate arrangements with the landlord, I just happen to be the person he texts first for some reason. I don't want to be in the middle of that anymore, it stresses me out and honestly if something goes wrong with payments I don't want my name attached to whatever excuse was given.

She's been pretty col d since then and told our mutual friend I "betrayed" her. I genuinly thought I was doing her a favor before and now I'm the bad guy for stopping. Am I missing something here or is this kind of an unreasonable reaction on her part?