My wife had an affair 6 years ago – we worked through it, but I have always been very sensitive to her actions afterwards. She recently went on a work trip and when she returned she began acting simular to the affair time of 6 years ago, phone always by her side - never left alone. More self help / working out.
Her friend called her who she was on her trip with – and I overheard some of the conversation which was:
"what on Instagram? – she check's her phone ~ oh I don't care, you know how I am around you".
To me this sounded like "hey theres some photos on instagram you might want to know about".
Anyhow I confronted her – about the call, her keeping her phone at arms length all the time, and a tattoo of a little heart she got on the work trip, which she didn't tell me about.
A few days latter - she says to me:
"I'm not cheating on you – but were growing apart and I'm leaving" – she then moved out a few days later.
A few weeks have gone by – and I messaged her about how she was a different person after coming back from the work trip and she replies:
"It gave me a lot of space to think about our relationship – I didn't cheat on you or anything ..."
So I pretty much am assuming she cheated or did something inappropriate during this trip and just switched off "us" in her head rather than deal with it.
I am not crazy right? Sure sounds like she cheated and just decided to end it all.