I have a gunstock deformity so I cannot do overhead movements. Is my modified push day plan okay? Running it twice a week
https://www.aston.ac.uk/sport/news/tips/fitness-exercise/push-pull-legs
I followed their workout plan for a month, and PPRLR cycle feels like I’m getting enough rest and refreshed. However, this cycle has fewer than 10-20 sets per muscle group per week, so should I just do PPLPPLR or PPLR cycle? Why did Aston University recommend the PPRLR cycle?
This is my current push plan (twice a week).
Push
Flat Bench Press (Dumbbell) - 3 x 8
Shoulder Press (Dumbbell) – 3 × 8
Incline Bench Press (Dumbbell) – 3 × 10
Lateral Raise (Cable) – 2 × 12
Tricep Pushdown (Cable) - 2 x 10
Cross Body Tricep Extension (Cable) - 2 x 10
I noticed that I get too tired by the time I do Incline Bench Press. Any tips? I was thinking about removing shoulder press (-3) and increasing lateral raise (+2); is this a good idea?
I can’t do barbell lifts by the way. My goal is building muscle.
I just feel drained being with him and idk what to do. Like he’s nice but mean at the same time. But he isn’t malicious, and he says he’ll change whenever I blow up and say I’m leave. So I keep waiting for him to change, but it never happens.
There are lots of times that I feel confused and I feel ‘on edge.’
For example, I’m fluent in a language he is learning in college. But whenever he comes to me and asks for a feedback and I give him one, he’d get offended and we’d either fight or I’d apologize for not complementing him enough. Even when I try giving him compliments, he still says there were too many criticisms. So I just feel stressed whenever he brings his homework.
When we cuddle, he’d say things like ‘You’re not covering my body enough’ that pressures me a lot to be affectionate. He’d also say I was passive and our love was lacking. But when I became proactive, he withdrew and would only receive, still saying it wasn’t enough.
He would also do small but hurtful vague things, like touching my double chin when I gained weight from antidepressant or touching me inappropriately when an attractive actor appears naked on screen. But when I point it out he says he didn’t do them on purpose.
He’d also test me and suddenly become cold. Like, he would leave our gym session midway for dance practice (his hobby) and I asked permission to continue working out. He said ‘Sure‘ so I said ’Have fun!’ and continued working out. But when he came back, he became cold and criticized me for not prioritizing him. Apparently, he tested whether I’d follow him outside the gym for a goodbye and whether I’d wait for him. Basically he wanted me to pause my workout midway and wait for him (for like 2-3 hours) while he goes to dance, even when he said ’Sure.’
He’d also listen to me for hours and write me kind letters when I have a hard day (since I have depression). But if I struggle for more than 1 day he’d become indifferent and get annoyed, like yelling ‘can you stop? look around you, you’re fine.’ And one time, right after I stopped crying, he told me that he got an idea to write a story about a boyfriend who revenges his partner’s high school bully and goes to jail, for his writing class. I told him that the story made me feel uncomfortable, and he got upset.
He would also empathize with my insecurity, but then smirk at unattractive people at the gym, and even nudge me to look at them and smirk back which is kinda mean. He’d also make fun of people on YouTube videos we watch, which is very different from how he acts to me.
Like this relationship just confuses me, and he says he’ll change but like he is literally the same. Why is he like this??
I am looking for a job before pursuing an MSW to become a therapist. I enjoy helping people one-on-one in the long term, but I feel stressed when meeting many people and facilitating groups (where I have to put on a mask and appear bubbly). Which jobs do you recommend?