How do I 27m look past what my girlfriend of 3 years 27f did
Me 27m and my girlfriend 27f have been together for 3 years, we both began feeling things were abit odd and we were falling out of love for eachother to an extent, we both have different ambitions and goals for what we wanted out of life,
For context we have never had an argument or even as much as raised our voices with each other, and life has been perfect since we got together, [I must add we have known eachother our entire lives and were even boyfriend and girlfriend when were 6 years old]
I own a business that takes up a lot of my time and puts a lot of stress upon our relationship as she values time and family over a successful future where I get to retire early and enjoy the things she wants to enjoy now in life just later down the line.
But long story short, we decided to be adults and call it a day on our relationship before things go sour in hopes that maybe one day when we both have achieved what we want our of life that we may be able to re kindle what we once had.
After only 2 weeks, we both realised that maybe it wasn't the best idea since we still love each other and there is no bad blood,
we got back together and after 4 weeks of being together i then find out in that short 2 weeks she had been meeting people and having unprotected sex [2 things she had always been strongly against the entire time I've known her ,one night stands and unprotected sex,as she is insecure about her body and being naked around people] and lied to me about it for the last few weeks when I had brought it up in conversation just to make sure there was no way i would catch anything once we got back together.
I must add I am very reserved on sex as I have only had sex with 3 women all being part of long term relationships so sex to me isn't just something I do and is reserved for the person I love
She eventually told me after I was persistent, but now I don't know what to do. She's telling me that we were not together at the time and she went off the rails after losing me, I do agree with her to an extent as we were not together. but morally I think this is a bit far to do to someone you "love" considering she lied about it for the last few weeks as we were making things work and learning to love eachother again and I'm serious torn to weather or not i should be able to move past this as I'm now struggling to see her the same way i once did.
I have since been sleeping on the couch as I'm finding it hard to share a bed with her
As the person I knew and loved just a few short weeks ago can be a completely different person morally whom they have been telling me for the last 2 years,
Any advice is welcome as my head is not in the right place and I'm seriously stuck as to what to do ,
Cheers guys