AITA for asking my fiancée to get rid of her bird
First time posting long time reader sorry for formatting had to get this out quickly
So I (M 22) and my fiancée (F 23) started living together in December of 2025. We have been together since 2016 and in that span of time she adopted a cockatiel that she and her mother found at a park in 2019.
This bird was friendly for maybe 4 months before it decided it no longer likes to be touched or handled or even looked at by some people. Now, her and her mother during this time said they were putting out messages that they found this bird and said they got no answers saying anyone had lost it. They said they would take it to the human society and see if the ring around its leg could be traced back to an owner and didn’t end up doing that either.
As for the bird’s care it spends 90% of the time in its cage which isn’t at all good for it. It has since she got it, I am really the only one that lets it out to do bird stuff. It doesn’t get bathed regularly either and the cage often is left dirty for weeks at a time. The one and only time we took it to the bird vet it’s apparently healthy if not just a bit overweight. Vet had no advice for the aggression or handling issues.
Here we are now in 2026 with the main problem at hand, the bird is finally in the house we are renting, I don’t like the bird and really never have. It’s really loud all of the time and mean and the dust makes me feel kind of sick a lot of the time. She’s had it for so long but I feel like maybe I would be the a hole if I asked her again to rehome the bird as I have a few times in the past because I don’t like how it’s being cared for.
Edit to add: it was previously decided that the bird would stay at her mothers home before we moved in together but she and her mother are out of town and I am watching the bird in our new house while they are gone. I got a text earlier today saying that the bird should stay with us after they return since she just bought it a new cage (slightly larger than its last but not by much at all) and it’s already set up in the room that was supposed to be mine for my computer set up and other gaming devices we share. Her mother doesn’t interact with the bird at all other than feeding it and changing water in the morning much I feel that’s important to note on top
AITA?