u/DistrictNo6165

Right out of highschool, I went to college due to familial pressure without really having any clue in what I should do. Ended up deciding on Criminal Justice without realizing it has one of the highest underemployment rates for bachelors degrees. Since I wasn’t able to get a relevant job that paid more than $45k, I decided to join a union electrical apprenticeship (IBEW). I’ve got 2 years left until I become a licensed electrician but I’d prefer not to work in the field forever. My question is, would I have a real shot at landing a job as an APM/PM, super, PE, or any other role right out of my apprenticeship while also holding a bachelors degree?

We met right before graduating from university, and after nearly 3 wonderful years together, we suddenly broke up about a month ago. When I asked her for the reasoning, she said it was because she was no longer “in love”, but still loved me, wanted options due to me being her first (she’s dated but never done the deed with anyone else, nor seriously dated, just went out on dates), and most importantly, stating that tarot cards helped unearth these feelings! She claims to have been feeling this way for a few months, but honestly… I feel like the tarot influenced her mindset as she’s attributed many life outcomes to what it tells her.

I do not believe in tarot at all, and I’ve tried reasoning with her on this, but she couldn’t shake the feeling that our relationship isn’t supposed to continue. She did let me know that she did not want to breakup, and if we were to reconcile in the future, she’d have to make an extreme career sacrifice, saying she’d have to choose me or her career, but again, this would have to be after we worked on ourselves, and had different options to see what else is out there.

It definitely seems like a “grass is greener on the other side” type of mentality, but part of me hopes we get back together. I know I shouldn’t have, but I visited her last week, and we had many deep talks as she wanted me to spend the weekend with her, and said she’s afraid/doesn’t want to lose me, but knows we can’t be together right now. We agreed on an 8 month hiatus, but she also said that she’d want me to see her whenever I want??

She did also say that if she were to get with anyone else, she’d have high standards due to how well I treated her.

Did/do you ever regret your decision, have you rekindled the relationship?