u/Distinct_Sort_1406

problem/goal: my boyfriend of 9 years broke up with me. i want to move on.

suddenly so sure of marriage, he decided that he was not ready. after giving him an ultimatum, he apologized saying that he won't be able to give me what i wanted so it's only fair that he let me go.

i'm 33, he is 46. i just finished my post grad degree after 8 years of being a working student. i promised him that i'll pass the bar in one take so we can get married (and i did)

for context, we had short talks about marriage, but not something we sit down on. i have to admit, in the past months i was being pushy on asking him about our plans. he said he was happy taking everything one at a time.. he said he loves me and he'll choose me but thinking about marriage in the future is something that we should worry next time. we'd been together for 9 years.. when will be the right time?

---- are we ready? he lives with his mother and i live alone. i ask him to live in with me instead but does not want to move out since it's not economical for him to pay rent.

he is a good man.

just not financially stable and without concrete plans in the future. aside from that, he is an amazing man.

but i love him and accepted him for who he is. he'd been with me towards every milestone so it hurts that i cannot create another with him.

i did everything in the book. i try to be the responsible girlfriend. i avoided things that his exes did to him.. i supported his hobbies, his art, his dreams, and he to me.. so why is he letting go? why am i suddenly too demanding?

should i have waited for another year? am i wrong? how do i move on...

this is so heartbreaking..

i just want to move on..