i need advice because i honestly feel emotionally exhausted with my sister.
every now and then when i get paid, i help them financially by buying groceries, milk for her daughter that lasts around a month, and sometimes paying when we go out after church. i’ve also shared the gospel with her, bought her a Bible she wanted, shared my testimony, invited her to church, and tried encouraging her to use her free time to slowly improve her situation through free resources or studying.
the issue is that whenever she has problems, she often talks about suicide, and it really affects me emotionally. i always try to encourage her and remind her to think about her daughter and to keep going, but every time i try giving advice, she gets defensive or angry. she usually brings up my past mistakes or says i only have a job because i was able to go to college, even though i worked my way up starting from a call center job.
i’ve noticed that she mainly accepts financial help, but rejects advice or accountability. she spends most of her free time scrolling or watching reels until very late at night, even though she says she wants to improve her life someday. I actually feel like shell go off on ahead and tell me off on our relatives again cause thats what she does everytime even sending SS of my messages to them.
i try not to judge her because i know i also had my own struggles before coming to God, esp suicide cause I self harmed, literally had no one to rely on, i couldnt rely on her back then cause she had a family early, and i honestly don’t know what to do anymore. i want to help, especially because we already lost both our parents, but i’m starting to feel emotionally drained and frustrated because it feels one-sided sometimes.